Only a couple of years ago, I had no clue what personal development was. In fact, I had not even heard about it. I used to do things that made me happy at that moment, irrespective of its consequences later on.
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Books were my starting point
One day, as always, I was watching some Youtube videos. One of the recommended videos was titled ‘Summary of Rich Dad Poor Dad’. I found the title interesting. So I decided to watch it. The guy was talking about the differences between rich people and poor people. He then discussed a few financial terms. Despite being a finance student, I had never heard them in my school time. I had to Google them to find out their meaning.
As the name of the book grasped my interest so much, I read a few of its reviews from random websites. All these people were discussing how Rich Dad Poor Dad changed their lives, so on, and so on.
Even though I rarely read books, I thought perhaps I should also give this book a try. Then, I did…
By the time I finished reading Rich Dad Poor Dad, I felt my whole life was a wreck. I had been missing so many important things in my life without even knowing. I was frustrated at my school for not teaching me about money. But I was glad that I stumbled upon such a wonderful book.
Since I found that book fascinating, I thought I could find similar other books. So I Googled these 2 terms:
- The most popular book for our development
- Books similar to Rich Dad Poor Dad
I cannot tell you how thankful I am for these books. Thanks to the author of these books, I was already with a personal development mindset without my awareness.
P.S. I have read Rich Dad Poor Dad more than 4 times in total.
“In school, we learn that mistakes are bad, and we are punished for making them. Yet, if you look at the way humans are designed to learn, we learn by making mistakes. We learn to walk by falling down. If we never fell down, we would never walk.”Robert T. Kiyosaki, Rich Dad, Poor Dad
The TED Talk that changed my life
Sinek discussed why it’s essential for us to find our life’s purpose before anything else. All of us know what we’re doing. Some of us know how we are able to do what we’re doing. Only a few of us know why we doing it.
“People don’t buy what you do; they buy why you do it. And what you do simply proves what you believe.”Simon Sinek, Start with Why
When you constantly ask yourself why you are doing what you are doing, you will see a great paradigm shift in your life.
After watching the TED Talk, I was able to visualize and self-reflect on my past. Suddenly, I felt like all the dots were starting to connect. Later, I started asking myself about the purpose of my life. What inspires me? Long after observing and analyzing myself, I found my purpose. Since then, all my life has revolved around with that specific “purpose” I found for myself.
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.”Steve Jobs
You may ask but how can one small thing influence so much in your life? That’s the thing, it works like magic.
How was Steve Jobs able to achieve so much? It’s because he had a single purpose in his life – to create a company that would prioritize people before anything else. Back in his days, personal computers weren’t of good quality. So Jobs took matters in his own hands by discovering Apple. He provided great value to his consumers. No wonder Apple’s the most valued company in the modern world.
What was Mahatma Gandhi’s purpose? He wanted to free India from the British Rule using non-violence. Not only was he successful in doing so, but he remains one of the most influential people the world has ever seen. His cause helped the USA achieve racial equality through Martin Luther King Jr. Gandhi’s approach inspired Nelson Mandela to achieve freedom for South Africa.
The reason Steve Jobs and Mahatma Gandhi were successful is that they had one purpose in their lives. They dedicated their entire lives to achieve that single cause which ignited their core beliefs and values.
Setting my goals
After finding my ‘why’, it was then time to follow the ‘how’ process. By then, I had learned that goal setting is one of the most important activities you could get into for personal development.
So after a lot of planning, I set my goals. I break them down into a periodic basis – yearly, quarterly, monthly, weekly, daily.
I would like to provide an example with one of my real goals for 2020:
|Yearly||Become proficient in Python software|
|Quarterly||Make my own Python project|
|Monthly||Learn all the basics of Python|
|Weekly||Finish an online Python course|
|Daily||2 hours of Python practice|
Breaking them down like this has helped me focus on a particular time. If I leave my goals for a yearly basis, then it would seem overwhelming. Most likely, I wouldn’t have even tried. Earlier, I had to quit so many goals because I failed to divide them into a manageable structure. I hope that you won’t commit the same mistake as I did.
“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.”Andrew Carnegie
Only setting goals isn’t enough. We have to evaluate whether we are able to achieve them or not. If I failed to achieve them, then I would question myself why I failed to do so. I prepare mathematical models to make my goals precise and time-bound. I would promise myself to complete it next time.
Similar to breaking down my goals, I follow the same pattern for periodical reflection as well. Every night before sleeping, I would check if I was able to accomplish it or not.
Example of my periodical reflection for the same goal as above:
|Yearly||Till June 2020, I am able to demonstrate semi-proficiency in Python|
|Quarterly||I made a computer game using Python|
|Monthly||I failed to cover the Python basics in one month. It took me around 2 months|
|Weekly||I completed my online Python course|
|Daily||I practiced for only 1.5 hours. I need to improve on it|
“Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be?”Charles Bukowski, Post Office
So this is all about my journey in personal development. I was unaware of the possibility of personal development back then. But once I learned about it, I never looked back. I chose to define my path with personal development.
I hope you can relate to this article and start your own personal development journey. If you already have it, then Bingo! Keep developing yourself!