Isn’t it ironic that we write so much about personal development, yet we are calling it can be harmful to you?
Not only personal development but obsessing over anything would be bad for you. For this article, let’s stick to just personal development, shall we?
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Sacrifice other priorities
When you obsess over personal development, you lose yourself in it. You spend countless hours, which requires a lot of sacrifices along the way. You won’t be able to do anything else during that time such as meeting your family and friends or following your hobbies.
While all these sacrifices might make you a top achiever in personal development, later, you might question yourself whether it was even worth it.
Was it worth it that I spent my time reading a self-help book instead of attending my family dinner? Was it worth it that I worked so hard to only lose contact with all my friends?
We all have heard about how entrepreneurs obsess so much about their businesses that they forget about their other priorities. Many of them regret later in their life for not giving enough time for themselves. They then suffer from depression and loneliness. I hope you will never have to face those circumstances.
“All your progress means nothing if others don’t get to benefit as well.”
No break = No life
Developing yourself nonstop? Ten hours a day? Twelve hours a day? Or every waking hour?
This point correlates to the earlier point.
We need breaks to give ourselves rest. Without adequate rest, we cannot give our best. We might not realize, but over time, our performance, as well as our health, starts degrading.
Yeah, sure. While those activities would be doing their jobs, there are many other factors that come into play. When you don’t take consistent breaks, you start facing fatigue. All the hours that you spent alone might affect your mental health. Your stress level will rise. You will start worrying a lot.
In the best-selling book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Mark Manson argues how modern people are so obsessed with personal development that we forget that we have a life outside it as well.
“Let’s loosen up some time and take a break to re-calibrate our life. We need no endless over-thinking, though. Let’s just connect the dots, set the scene, and steam ahead.”Erik Pevernagie
Spending so much money on personal development?
Did you know that personal development is over $15 billion industry? Flashback two decades, the number was less than $1 billion. Did the world population increase so much all of a sudden? The population grew by less than 20% over that period.
So what happened that increased the personal development industry by more than 1500%?
In simple words, people have become obsessed with personal development. In this fast-paced world, we too want to move fast, don’t we? One of the ways to keep up our pace is through personal development.
The people behind earning millions of dollars from personal development encourage us to learn every day like Warren Buffett, hustle like Gary V, and work like hell like Elon Musk. They make us feel that we aren’t good enough. We have to change now and do it quickly.
In the beginning, they provide everything for free. But slowly, they give us an offer that we simply can’t refuse. It might be a special course, a book, or a ticket to their VIP seminar. With all the excitement of thinking about us changing going in our minds, we buy into it.
While starting, we might spend a hundred dollars, believing that’s the only tool you will require. But before realizing, you would have spent thousands of dollars, and still, feel unfulfilled. You want more about personal development. You are ready to spend as much as required to access the quick-growth strategies.
This burning obsession is not because you want to develop yourself. Rather, it is because of the great marketing done by these companies. It’s no wonder that the personal development industry is currently exploding.
So, are you willing to spend that much money on something that you could have got for only a few dollars?
“A poor man knows the true value of money and will not dare waste it, but a rich man is extravagant and always looking for an opportunity to empty his pockets.”― Michael Bassey Johnson
The bottom line
Engaging yourself in personal development is great until it becomes an addiction.
You won’t get your time back that you could have spent with your family and friends. You might not get your health to where it was before this obsession. And finally, you won’t get the money spent on personal development.
So while personal development may help you motivate yourself during the worst of times, but an obsession will lead to terrible consequences.
We have written a similar article about the proper way to start your personal development journey. Check it out – 4 Steps To Start Your Personal Development Journey